First Time Dad

What you will experience as a first-time dad

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Like many expectant fathers, you’re probably excited to be a new dad. But with so much information out there on every conceivable aspect of baby care, it’s hard not to feel overwhelmed by the sheer volume of advice available.

Simple Tips for First Time Dads

Here are some simple tips for new dads that can help you prepare for your baby’s delivery and make life skills parenting a little easier when the time comes.

Your partner is in charge.

Remember, your wife or girlfriend is pregnant. It may seem like she spends most of her day sitting on the couch watching TV, but trust me when I say that she was busy doing things before she got knocked up. If she can bake cookies for 18 hours straight without batting an eye, then the chances are good that she can change a diaper and cook soup for dinner without feeling too overwhelmed. So, step back and let her do that stuff she does so well.

Your job is to relax and support.

You’re going to feel like you don’t know what the hell you’re doing as a father, but you’ll be surprised at how quickly those feelings go away (if they ever exist at all). The first step toward learning to be a dad is accepting your lack of experience as nothing more than an opportunity to learn something new. Your baby’s first cry will make it abundantly clear why we spend nine months waiting on them hand-and-foot – it’s because they are completely helpless when they are born, requiring us to provide everything they need to survive.

Your baby will let you know when it’s hungry. Well, maybe not at first, but eventually, your infant will develop the ability to communicate her needs in an obvious fashion. Ultimately it’s up to you to figure out what she is trying so desperately to tell you. Many fathers think their child never cries because they constantly eat, but that couldn’t be further from the truth.

It can take anywhere from 20 minutes – two hours for an exclusively breastfed infant to consume enough milk for one feeding. So don’t worry if she doesn’t eat often – instead, relax and give your baby some time to digest her meal before picking her up and offering another breast (or bottle).

Most importantly, don’t panic. When you look into your child’s eyes for the first time, you’re going to think that the world is about to end. You won’t know where to begin or what to do with this tiny life looking up at you with wonderment in her eyes, but that’s okay. Just give it some time, and things will start feeling normal quite soon.

There are many types of babies on planet earth, so many methods are used to care for them. Baby care falls under several categories, including feeding, diapering, bathing, grooming, sleeping, and playing.

Following a routine while taking care of the baby helps the parents and the infant because it creates a sense of familiarity. Dads should keep in mind that no two babies are the same and should not try to copy other parents while tending to their baby care.


You’ll need the following items immediately after the birth of your child.

Nursing pillow –

This is used to help keep an eye on the baby while feeding. Some people prefer to hold their newborns when they provide them, but my wife says she likes using this and that it offers her some freedom to do other things than feed the baby. Some examples: burp your baby, read a book or watch TV. Baby will spit up stuff into this pillow, so don’t be surprised if there’s overflow. If the baby poops, you’ll have to change this pillow as it will be dirty.

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Baby sling –

This is another way to keep an eye on your child when you’re busy doing something else such as cooking or cleaning. This isn’t really used that much by people I know, but my wife says she’ll use this a lot since it doesn’t restrict her movement, and she can still do other things while having the baby strapped onto her. Some of you might feel a little uncomfortable seeing your wife holding a baby with one hand and swinging it around like a pendulum. If so, get ready to have some heartburn.

You may also not be able to access certain things in the house because the sling blocks them, but this gives you more time to bond with your child. You might also feel a little erm, inadequate because your wife’s carrying your baby, and you can’t seem to do much about it except follow her around as she does house chores or goes out shopping with her. I even tried pushing my wife in a wheelchair once while we went out shopping because I wanted to do something too.

Baby bouncer –

This is used when you need to leave the baby by itself for a moment but still want it near you. This comes in handy when you’re doing things that require both hands, where having the baby strapped on to you would slow you down considerably.

My wife uses this a lot when cooking since she doesn’t have to keep bringing the child from one part of the kitchen whenever she needs to access something. You can also set this up in your living room and enjoy some quiet time with the baby, but make sure you keep an eye on it because babies are known to spit up almost anything they see. A rule of thumb for this is if the baby’s within 2 feet (0.6m) of you, you should be watching it.

Baby play gym –

This is quite pricey for my taste at about 16K+. Still, my wife insists that we buy one because this helps develop your child’s motor skills by allowing it to roll over, stretch its limbs and move around like a spider monkey or whatever they do when they’re still tiny things bouncing off walls inside their mother’s tummy.

My wife says she’ll use this a lot as something to keep the baby occupied when she needs a hand for something else. You might not want a play gym because it’s rather large and takes up about 4 feet x 2 feet of floor space, but if you have a small living room as I do, you’ll need all the floor space you can get so that your guests won’t trip or step on the baby by accident.


Baby monitor –

This is used to hear what your child is doing from another room without actually being there yourself. These are especially useful since parents tend to be quite protective over their children, knowing that all sorts of things could happen whenever they’re not looking. You can hear them cry anytime, night or day, and if you’re not concerned, you can ignore it.

However, if the baby’s crying persistently, then chances are something is wrong. You might also think that this thing costs a lot of money since some models have a video screen for your child to look at while playing or sleeping, but I found one online from Lazada called “Secure-it” manufactured by Digiland cost slightly over 4K.

Baby stroller

This is used when you need to take your child outside so that both of you don’t have to worry about getting tired after walking somewhere. Babies tend to sleep a lot whenever they’re in a moving vehicle because the rocking motion tends to lull them off into dreamland.

I had to get this stroller when the child started sleeping more than usual because it’s not healthy for him to do that too much, so getting this would allow him to get his rest while I’m pushing him around in public. You can also use this if your wife doesn’t feel like taking the baby out, but since she’d have to be there anyway to push it around with you, what’s the difference?

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Baby walker –

This is an alternative way of keeping your child occupied or when they need a place to sit while you’re busy cooking or doing something else without worrying about them making a mess on the floor when they crawl around. My wife says this is very useful when keeping the baby entertained while she does something else, but I’m not sure why.

The rooms in my house are all carpeted, so the floors would be clean no matter what the child does, and he’s too young to crawl around without supervision anyway. I guess this is useful if the blocks that came with the play gym didn’t seem like enough for your child because you can put anything inside there, and it’ll keep them happy for hours at a time.

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First Time Dads tips

1. Take care of yourself

When you’re a first-time dad, all eyes are on you. Your baby has to be perfect, and so do you. Be sure that you get enough sleep and exercise regularly. And drink lots of fluids – especially water. It’s hard work taking care of a newborn, but also fun and rewarding.

2 . Get organized

As soon as your baby is born (or before), make lists and set up a filing system for important documents like birth certificates, medical records, etc. Having the necessary proofs ready will save time when getting things done, such as registering your baby in school, for example. A good tip: write down the date when anything related to your child happens to avoid mixups.

3 . Be involved with your child

Newborns need a lot of attention, and so do you. Take the time to bond with your baby each day by talking, singing, or playing together. You will be surprised at how much this interaction will improve your relationship as your child grows up and eventually becomes an independent teenager! Also, try to take care of yourself: whether it’s going out to meet friends or having some “me” time, you mustn’t forget that you’re also a person.

4 . Find support if needed

It can feel like there is no end to sleepless nights and dirty diapers when bringing up a baby. It helps to talk about how frustrating things are sometimes getting (or all the time) to a friend or family member. You might also want to consider seeking professional help if you feel depressed, overwhelmed, or hopeless for extended periods. Remember: it’s not your fault that there is no “off” switch when it comes to your baby crying.

5 . Baby proof you’re home

Your baby will be crawling and running around in no time – make sure everything is safe by using protective covers on electrical outlets and putting fragile things out of reach, for example. If you have stairs at home, install a gate at the top and bottom. Also, keep in mind that your child’s natural curiosity means that they will touch anything within reach, which you might want to be kept off-limits.

6 . Don’t push your child

Each baby develops at a different pace. Yes, it’s hard to resist the temptation of showing your child how to do things when they are interested in something, but remember that you’re not a teacher! Avoid pressuring your little ones into doing things that they don’t want to do. You can always try again later on when they’re feeling more comfortable about participating.

7 . Make mealtimes fun

Mealtime with a little one can be pretty messy and frustrating for both you and your baby – but there’s no need for this food fight if you make the experience enjoyable from the start. Keep in mind that newborns don’t have a very developed sense of taste yet, so there’s no point in trying a wide variety of foods right away. Keep it simple and stress-free by sticking to formula or breast milk for now. As your child grows up, you can introduce new foods little by little – don’t be upset if they refuse to eat certain things.

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8 . Mind your manners

Teaching good manners is essential from the time your baby starts crawling around. Encourage them to say “please” and “thank you,” as well as encourage adults with a smile and offer help when needed. It’s also likely that your kid will imitate bad behavior so make sure you demonstrate how to behave appropriately by using kind words instead of punishing them severely for mistakes (you’ll only scare them!).

9 . Create special memories

From making silly faces to reading a story before bedtime, make sure you carve out some quality time with your baby every day. Since babies grow up so fast, you’ll be glad you have those special moments captured in pictures and on video.

10 . Don’t compare your kid to the neighbor’s child

Everyone is different – including babies as well as their parents! Your son or daughter might not do everything that other children do at his/her age. Many kids excel at sports or academics because they’re entirely focused from an early age, whereas others focus on improving their social skills first. Kids develop healthy self-esteem when they feel loved by their parents instead of being compared to others all the time.

The first year of a child’s life is a memorably intense experience. It passes in a blur of growth that leaves new fathers unsure of what comes next but eager to do their best. Some skills come with instinct and an evolved sense of knowing how to communicate, provide, and protect from the animal part of the brain.

Other tasks are more difficult for men who have been raised in our politically correct society with little experience in reading non-verbal communication signals from infants. In large cities, there is often no nearby family to offer guidance, so dads must learn on their own if they want to be good fathers – or even not make things worse (which is also a critical aim). Here are some tips derived from my own experience.

It is not too soon to start preparing for the coming event. The first time you change a diaper, your hands will be clumsy, and it can be challenging to get the baby’s legs far enough apart. Prepare yourself by practicing on rubber dolls or even with friends who have babies (so long as their permission has been granted).

Wearing thin latex exam gloves makes this more accessible but does nothing for your sense of touch or ability to read non-verbal communication signals that tell when things are going well and when they are not. It takes practice, so don’t worry if you fumble at first. If you work at it, you will gain skill at your fingertips and good coordination.

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As the baby grows, it will be necessary to change his position to be diapered or swaddled correctly. If things go well, this is easy by just putting one arm behind the back and lifting the other – like taking an oath in court. If you are lucky, the baby will hold still for this; if not, you may need the help of someone more experienced.

There are also unique swaddling boards designed much like a portable playpen that keep infants safely immobilized while changing diapers. These are invaluable for single fathers who live alone with their infant son or daughter; they spare you from having to place your young child in public restroom toilets (which are quickly disgusting) when diapering must be done.