You would think that becoming a parent is one of the most natural things to do. But it’s also easy to become overwhelmed, anxious, and uncertain about being a parent. It can feel like raising children is just as difficult as learning how to get them on their feet. As a parent, you have a lot to take on.
What’s more, you’re not just responsible for your child, but also your partner. You’re dealing with new physical and emotional demands while trying to keep things running at home and working with a family member who may be equally new to parenting. It can seem like the world is against you. But the truth is that most parents feel anxious, scared, and uncertain about their abilities as parents at one time or another.
Tips on how to be a confident parent;
1. Accept you will make mistakes
Parents sometimes worry that they won’t do things right or that they’ll hurt their children in some way. But there’s no such thing as a perfect parent. Even the best parents occasionally get things wrong. It happens to everyone. The most confident parents know they may not be perfect, but then again neither are their kids!
2. Don’t compare yourself to other parents
Unfortunately, your parenting skills aren’t measured on any kind of international scale so you can’t compare yourself to other parents and family members. So why not let go of those comparisons? It’s going to be difficult, but you can do it if you put your mind to it. The more you focus on the negatives, the more anxious and unhappy you’re going to become. Focus on what you’re doing right and forget about everything else!
3. Focus on your children
If you start comparing yourself to other parents, stop right now. It’s not helping your confidence or their development. Instead of comparing yourself to other parents, focus on your children. You are the best parent for your child, so don’t compare your parenting style to anyone else’s because it won’t help you get the most out of being a parent.
4. Keep calm and carry on
Parenting is an emotional job and it can be very draining because you’re taking care of a very tiny human being who depends on you for everything in life. So don’t take yourself too seriously. And try to balance your life out with exercise, hobbies, and some time to yourself. Being a parent isn’t that difficult or daunting. You do it because you love your child, so keep doing what you’re doing and enjoy getting to know your child.
5. Love your partner
When you’re going through a bad patch of parenting, if you need to vent, go for a walk or call someone who can help you get through it. However, don’t take your frustrations out on your partner. You’re a team now, so keep it positive. It doesn’t mean you should never argue or raise your voice, but don’t let disagreements turn into all-out wars.
6. Instill discipline to children from a tender age
Research is clear that children are masters at figuring out the limits of their parents, even by two years old! Being a parent doesn’t mean they will always agree with what you want, and if they don’t, talk to them in a calm, loving manner. Make sure that you’re always being firm with your children, but also loving and gentle with them.
7. Be open and honest with your children
Children learn by example and by observing how their parents interact in their daily lives. You should be a role model for your child and set the example of being open and honest so that the child can learn what is acceptable and what isn’t. If you’re not a role model for them, then it’s up to you to set a good example.
8. Be a role model
Being a parent doesn’t mean you have to be perfect. But you do need to be a role model for your children. So when it comes to the way you behave, talk and deal with problems, children are watching and learning by example.
9. Have fun with your kids
You should remember that being a parent is also about fun, so try to enjoy every single moment because this stage of parenthood passes all too quickly. Remember, too, that children learn through play and laughter as well as discipline and examples. So when you have the chance, play with your children, encourage them and be there for them.
10. Don’t be hard on yourself
When it comes down to parenting, you mustn’t set yourself too high a personal bar or think you have to be perfect. All parents make mistakes from time to time – but only if you let yourself off the hook too easily by being hard on yourself. So as much as possible, aim to minimize how much pressure you put on yourself.
What could be in the future?
The world is becoming more and more aware that how we raise our children matters and that every child deserves a warm, safe, and happy upbringing. Parenting has come a long way since we were children ourselves, and young parents are now getting more support than ever before. Modern parenting methods combine sensible behavior with fun drama, so your kids will be able to walk through the stages of life feeling confident and independent while having fun doing it.
When should I be strict with my child?
Whenever you are harsh with your child, you should try to remember that discipline is about making the rules, guiding and correcting them, not hitting them or screaming at them. But don’t be too lenient either. Don’t let your child have their way all the time. They must behave responsibly and understand that they do have to follow certain rules in life.
It’s important to remember that parenting is a very personal decision and shouldn’t be based on what you’ve seen on television or what other people may think. There are no official rules that tell you how to be the best parent, so the best thing you can do is fill your mind with positive feelings about being a parent, read up on parenting books, listen to parents who have gone before you, and then find out your way of bringing up your child.